Im taking a different approach with my blog post this time. Ive written some things below but Ive also recorded them in my own voice so you can hit [play] and listen along as you read it with me. It different and I kinda hope everyone likes it. 🙂
pleasant or attractive.
“a charming country cottage”
synonyms: delightful, pleasing, pleasant, agreeable, likable, endearing, lovely, lovable, adorable, appealing, attractive, good-looking, prepossessing; More
(of a person or manner) polite, friendly, and likable.
“he was a charming, affectionate colleague”
Why charming.. Why did I name this blog post Charming? Why did I find the real definition of Charming to start this blog post off? Well.. that’s because I think charming can be way more than just whats said above.. and Ill tell you why.
Of everything that goes on in my life from my anxiety to my spazz moments, to just dealing with everyday life why charming? Why did I pick that word to talk to you about today? Why do I insist on wearing cute dresses? Why do I insist on keeping my blog going? Why do I insist on signing into Second Life just to play dress up for a couple hours, get lost in the moment, snap a couple pictures and upload them to a blog for everyone to see? Why do I continue to do these things almost two years after starting it? Most people would have gotten bored with it when they don’t see they have a ton of views, or maybe sometimes they become overwhelmed with everything and give up.
There are so many things that aren’t good in this world. That aren’t good in my life and I try, I try as hard as I can to be positive about everything. But sometimes its the little things.. and that’s what charming is to me. Its those little things that makes life just a little bit better. Its making my avatar look pretty when I’m having a horrible day, just because. Its visiting that random sim and walking through exploring all the little details someone took the time to make, just because. This is my charming Second Life and if I can do something small to make myself happy then I’m going to do it. There’s no real point to wallow in whatever it is I’m going through or what the world is going through. I cant change the world, I cant change people, but I can change how I react to things. And that’s why I have this blog, that is why I do what I do. Its not to present some facade of a beautiful Second and real life, because what you cant see behind the other side of these pictures is me interacting with my real life, my dirty car that needs washed, my pile of makeup that I need to rearrange, my dirty clothes I need to wash, my amazing collection of Marilyn Monroe memorabilia, my countless bottles of medicine I need to help my body keep functioning recently. You also dont see how much of my Second Life is a mess with countless boxes everywhere scattered throughout the place or how I have a cute little house set up which I change on a normal basis because im a hoarder of SL houses. What you do see though is from time to time me looking very well put together and lady like (sometimes not so lady like) on my blog post because those things make me feel good. Sharing what I find beautiful in Second Life and hoping you see some beauty in it too. Thats something thats important to me. Blogging isnt a job to me like it is to a lot of people. I blog because thats something I love. I started before the big ‘blogging craze’ started and I didnt start for free clothing. In the beginning I worked my ass off at clubs making tips so I could pay for nice things to blog for everyone. I finally got enough views and applied for enough feeds that someone took a chance on me to blog their clothing. I think that when you struggle, and it doesn’t matter real life or second life.. be it anxiety, depression, loneliness, or any other type of illness.. you need to find those things that bring even just the smallest amount of happiness to your life. Thats why in real life I never leave the house without my makeup, and I do all these blogs in second life because those things make me happy, those things make me feel good. You dont see me in real life wearing my sweats and hair in a messy bun most of the time.. so when I get a chance to play dress up in second life and wear a cute dress and heels.. Im going to take it. Theres so much that goes on in peoples worlds behind the scenes and thats just how it is for everybody. To me.. charming isnt perfection. Its absolutely not perfect in any sense of the word. Its the little things that I do to make myself happy.. to make others happy.. to make the world maybe just a little bit more beautiful. The world is a big scary place and to a lot of people this may just seem petty, but I cant change the world I can just change myself. So to me.. thats what charming is. Its dressing up in Second Life to explore alone, its those countless hours playing Cards against Humanity or Greedy with the ones you care about the most, its getting dressed up to have fun with friends, its taking those numerous amount of photos trying to find the right angle and wind light, its that lipstick I bought in RL that was way too expensive but makes me feel beautiful when I have it on. Its that child I give extra suckers to at work and they smile back at me so excited, its helping one another, its being a good friend.. and doing a little impulse shopping in RL and SL once in awhile. And Im not going to be ashamed of it and Im not going to be sorry for anything that I do, but all I can say is charming is whatever you need to do in your life to make you feel good, to make your world a little bit more beautiful.. to make you feel happy. My life for sure is FAR from perfect, but.. at least.. at least Im trying. 🙂
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